If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying.His Holiness the Dalia Lama, Words of Wisdom
Worrying is feeling uneasy or being overly concerned about a situation or problem. You might worry about things like health, money, or family problems. Worry is…Helpful and can improve your functioning, problem-solving, attention, and motivation. Very specific. Stress-related. Related to a realistic concern. A piece of anxiety. Involves your thought. Something that prompts us to act.https://intermountainhealthcare.org/blogs/topics/live-well/2020/11/whats-the-difference-between-worry-and-anxiety/
I think that, in some ways, these two passages are saying the same things. It is natural to worry sometimes, which helps us determine if a problem can be worked through to a satisfactory conclusion. Once we discern that we can do something about the source of our worries, there is no need to worry about it anymore. Maybe when bumps in the road of life come up, we can preemptively apply our breaks and go over them slowly or navigate around them. Looking ahead and being alert can help us have less need to worry or be overly concerned about things, such as family problems or money. Everyone finds a situation that cannot be changed, avoided, or have no control over (such as an illness like cancer.) In times such as these, there is no point in worrying because it is what it is. If we worry too much about static situations, it can manifest anxiety. Anxiety can last longer is harder to control and get rid of than worry. Sometimes one’s anxious condition can grow so great that it needs to be treated with medications. If we are being realistic and just let it go instead of worrying, we can better come to terms with it.
I have a driver’s license, but the last time I got behind the wheel of a car was around 5 years ago. One reason is that I tend to speed (lead foot.) The other reason is that I develop anxiety simply because there is no control due to the many factors and other drivers. I prefer being a passenger, and I make excellent suggestions about how we can best traverse the terrain to our destination. I am also very good at startling my driver by warning them with a screech about other cars getting too close or whether we are switching to the correct lane in time. All this anxiety is somewhat justified because driving is dangerous. Some days I just relax and go with the traffic and say a prayer for safe passage to the Universal Life Force. Everyone in the car loves days like these. There have been more relaxed days lately. So I am glad this Words of Wisdom card about worry came up for me today. It just brought me to the awareness that sometimes letting go is better when I can acknowledge that I can’t control everything. Love and Faith to all of you.