By Markie Doczi | Featured Contributor The Road Not Taken by Robert Frost has always resonated with me. As a writer, I can appreciate a good simile, and I always want to live my life like he describes in this poem. I think this logic applies to daily life, both the big and the little things. For…Are You Taking the Road Less Traveled? — PhoebeMD: Medicine + Poetry
I found I had a lot of the ways Markie Doczi takes her road less travelled were similar to mine. So this post made a lot of sense. I’ve been called weird my whole life, sometimes creepy but in a good way. My road less travelled was slighty involuntary due to a mental illness, but the majority of the decision to be my own individual has me on a very non-conventional yet interesting journey.
One of the things that stray from the norm is that I do not have a regular sleep routine. My job is flexible, and I choose my hours. I know that healthy practice dictates we go to bed and wake up at the same time each night and day (even on our days off). For whatever reason, my whole life has usually been staying up all night–and going to bed between three and five in the morning. Occasionally, I have stints where I fall asleep shortly before midnight. For the most part, I sleep when I am tired and wake up at the same time most mornings. I’ve tried keeping a “normal” routine and found myself feeling miserable and somewhat a prisoner of time and my life. So I dropped trying to keep the strict “routine” and let myself listen to my body for the most part. I still receive quality sleep.
I also find that while I still have a schedule for work for us, and make appointments that would be during my tentative sleep schedule, my idea of time is one of freedom. It allows me to live life in the moment while still working on my goals. One of my most used phrases is “Wait for me”. I get lost in my projects and I am a little slower to get ready to go somewhere because I want to finish what I am working on. The downside is that I have a rather poor concept of the passage of time and don’t realize that it passes so quickly. I take my time but time doesn’t slow down for me.
One other thing that may be considered very different is that I didn’t meet my husband and get married until I was almost in my 50s. Most people marry their high school or college sweethearts. I have been engaged a few times and had a son with one of those people. Something held me back from making that final commitment. I just wanted to make sure that I didn’t invest ten to twenty years with someone only to end in a divorce. I paid attention to all those red flags that people tend to gloss over after a short time. Sure, I was lonely a lot of the time, but I didn’t feel like I needed someone else to complete me. Sometimes I did get into toxic relationships, but I came out of it learning something about myself. There are prices to freedom and independence, but my relationship now is easygoing. We’ve both been through most of the rocky stuff and have shown each other our scars.
In summary, Markie Doczi gave me an interesting topic to dwell on. I used to think the road less traveled was a primitive one with washboards, ruts, and ditches. In some ways and for some people, this thought process rings true anyway. But it’s also a thrilling roller coaster sometimes. Other times it is a peaceful path on an autumn day with a glorious sunset that proves God’s existence. The landscape constantly changes as it becomes a long journey.